Multiple sclerosis and family

How it affects family 

Living with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) affects not just the person diagnosed, but also their family. The experience of MS can be shaped by unique cultural, social, and healthcare challenges. Understanding these impacts can help families offer better support and navigate this journey together.

Emotional and Psychological Impact

MS can create emotional strain on family members as they cope with uncertainty about the future. Black women may also face cultural stigma around chronic illness, which adds complexity to their emotional well-being.

  • Family Stress: Loved ones may feel anxious or unsure of how to help, while the person with MS may feel frustrated by limitations.
  • Guilt and Role Changes: The person with MS may struggle with guilt over not being able to participate in family activities, while family members adjust to caregiving roles.

Caregiving and Role Shifts

As MS progresses, caregiving duties may fall to family members, leading to changes in household roles. This can be especially challenging for Black women who may already carry the burden of multiple roles in the family.

  • Increased Caregiver Demands: Family members may need to assist with mobility, daily tasks, and medical needs, impacting their own routines.
  • Changing Dynamics: The person with MS may no longer be able to fulfil certain roles, leading to emotional adjustments and possible tension.

Financial Impact

MS can place a financial strain on families, as medications, mobility aids, and home adjustments can add up.

  • Rising Costs: Even though the NHS provides many services, MS-related treatments, therapies, and medications may involve additional costs.

MS-Related Costs in the UK

While most MS treatments are covered by the NHS, there may still be additional costs for some therapies and services, including:

  • Disease-Modifying Therapies (DMTs): Newer or experimental treatments may not be fully covered by the NHS and could require private care.
  • Symptom Management Medications: Pain relief, antidepressants, or fatigue treatments might incur extra costs if not covered by NHS prescriptions.
  • Physiotherapy and Occupational Therapy: Private sessions may be necessary if NHS options have long waiting times.
  • Mobility Aids & Equipment: In many cases, the NHS will provide necessary mobility aids (e.g., wheelchairs, walking aids, raps, grab bars), but there may be restrictions or waiting times. Upgraded mobility aids or home adaptations may require private funding.
  • Private Specialist Consultations: MS specialists and second opinions can involve additional fees. Private consultations with neurologists or MS specialists can range from £150 to £300 or more per visit.
  • Complementary Therapies: Acupuncture, massage, and supplements are typically not covered by the NHS and can cost between £30 to £80 per session.
  • Psychological Support: Private therapy and counselling services may come with extra costs, typically costing £40 to £100 per session.
  • Income Loss: MS may affect the person’s ability to work, reducing household income and increasing financial pressures.

Social and Relationship Changes

MS can affect social life, leading to isolation for both the person with MS and their family. For Black women, navigating MS within the cultural and community context may bring additional challenges.

  • Social Withdrawal: Symptoms like fatigue or mobility issues can limit participation in social or family events, leading to feelings of isolation.
  • Family Support: Close-knit family structures can be both a blessing and a challenge, as extended family may offer support but also add pressure or opinions.

How Families Can Support Black Women with MS

  1. Open Communication: Regular conversations about needs and emotions can reduce misunderstandings and help everyone feel heard.
  2. Cultural Awareness: Understanding the specific challenges Black women face—such as healthcare disparities or cultural stigma—can help families offer more empathetic support.
  3. Encourage Independence: It’s important to support the person with MS in making decisions about their care and daily life to maintain dignity and autonomy.
  4. Practical Support: Creating a home environment that accommodates the person with MS, whether through mobility aids or emotional support, can significantly improve their quality of life.
  5. Seek Professional Help: Accessing mental health services or MS-specific support groups can provide guidance for both the person with MS and their family.